Nigeria’s number one feminist and preacher of equality, Ms Nkechi Bianze has said that she has no problem with her husband being the head.
This is coming after years of activism and feminism, Ms Nkechi who is famously known for saying that men and women are equal and none should be placed above the other seems to have recanted her words.
In a Facebook post written earlier today, she wrote “MOST of us women, including some of us feminists do NOT have a problem with having a man take the lead. We just have a problem with the notion that having a penis automatically qualifies you as the leader”.
Read her full post below
When/if I get married, I would NOT have a problem with considering my husband the head, leader or whatever.
Far from what many would imagine of me, I’m quite laid back.
The truth is that being a head is a BURDEN and a responsibility. I don’t think I want to be that in my home.
However, merely being born with a penis doesn’t qualify you fit to be head.
For me to trust my husband as the head and to take decisions for us, he MUST be more intelligent than I am. He must have better leadership qualities than I do.
I’m very short fused. He must be much more patient than I am because that’s one of the qualities of a good leader.
MOST of us women, including some of us feminists do NOT have a problem with having a man take the lead. We just have a problem with the notion that having a penis automatically qualifies you as the leader.
The issue is that if your IQ is less than half of mine and I’m clearly more intelligent than you are and have better leadership skills than you do, I will NOT allow you lead. I don’t want you to make stupid decisions for me.
I have to trust your intellect and your decision making before I can relax and let you head away.
That’s why I want an intelligent man whose decisions I can trust. I really do NOT want that extra burden of making most of the decisions.
I want to relax my brain knowing that one super intelligent husband is going to brainstorm and come up with the best decisions that are NOT selfish but in our joint interests as a couple and as a family.
Merely owning a penis doesn’t mean you have sense. It’s just a tiny piece of organ in your body.
Heads are usually held to the highest moral standards. But according to patriarchy, heads of homes shouldn’t be held to any moral standard.
Men are heads. Women are weaker vessels. But these weaker vessels are saddled with the burden of holding the marriage together and sometimes being the breadwinners while the so-called heads have the license to misbehave.
Many men keep misbehaving because they are never held responsible and accountable for all their acts.
We hold men on very low moral standards. The standards keep reducing by the day. That’s why we applaud man who changes HIS OWN baby’s diapers. We will soon start applauding them for breathing.
We say “men are like babies”, yet you want us to believe that these babies are the heads of the families. A culture of contrasting bullshits!
Raising women who can’t question their men, and raising men who think they are entitled to misbehave, because you can’t hold them to any moral standard. Yet they think that just by the virtue of owning a penis, they are the heads and they deserve submission.
Heads of AZU mangala and opkoroko. That’s what you are if you don’t have sense and if you don’t take responsibility. 🙄
Besides that penis, do you really have sense?